Self Development

Books:

  • 80/20 principle
  • 7 habis of highly effective people
  • power of habit
  • getting things done
  • deep work
  • eat that frog
  • first thing first
  • the one thing
  • 5 second rule
  • smarter, faster, better
  • focus
  • the coaching habit
  • 168 hour
  • make time
  • To-Do List Formula
  • Hot to Stop Procrastinating
  • Effective Decision-Making

Flexing

Motivation Style:

  1. Carer: it’s about people
  2. Driver: it’s about speed
  3. Professional: it’s about work
  4. Adapter: combination

Motivation style <> Behavior

Be flexing to different style

Coaching

Preparing for the conversation

  1. Create a safe environment: allow conversation to happen and someone can accept our feedback
  2. Create coaching contract: decide some expectation together

How to fully aware to the conversation? Asking a question.

Question Framing: Outcome focused > Problem focused

Give measurement to expected outcome. (Quote: “Something you can’t measure, you can’t manage”)

Goal Setting

People behave differently if have a goal

Bad Goal: Using Company Value/Job Description/To Do list/Long Narrative like novel

Good Goal: What, When, How, Why + Measurement + right wording (Using Active Verb)

Is it hard to implement Goal? Align between business vs individual.

  • The why <> What matters to the individual
  • The what <> What are their aspirations and motivations?
  • The how <> What are their key strengths

How to get good performance? Challenge by stretching and affirming the goal

  • Vertical stretch goal: existing activities to new heights
  • Horizontal stretch goal: inspire people to take different/broader responsible

Best practice to challenge people:

  1. Celebrate past success
  2. Have the right mindset
  3. Use helpful languages

Goal is dynamic; be flexing.

Make it Happen

RACI –> Tool for assigning responsibility

  • R = Responsible = The doer
  • A = Accountable = The buck stops here
  • C = Consulted = The contributor
  • I = Informed = The recipient

Method delivery using SCRUM

Inspire

9 influencing style:

  1. Reason
  2. Inspire
  3. Ask
  4. Feel good
  5. Deal
  6. Favor
  7. Silent allies
  8. Authority
  9. Force

How to being inspired

  1. Being self-inspired (by reading booking, watch movie, talk to people, etc)
  2. Get Positive Energy
  3. Using a good language
    • Engaging
    • Unexpected
    • Optimistic
    • Decisive
  4. Style or strategy
    • Future focused
    • Positive Framing
    • Build a vision
    • Have an opinion
  5. Have a purpose

Positive Thinking

What is NOT

  • NOT about suppressing negative emotions
  • NOT about pretending or faking
  • NOT a ‘cure all’

7 habis of highly effective people

  1. BE PROACTIVE
  2. BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
  3. PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST (We don’t manage time. We can only I manage ourselves)
  4. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND, THEN BE UNDERSTOOD
  5. THINK “WIN/WIN” (If a deal hurts them, it will hurt you. )
  6. SYNERGIZE
  7. SHARPEN THE SAW

168 hours You have more time than you think

  • 168 — that’s the number of hours in a week.
  • Not 24, discover yourself under 168 hours lens.
  • Sleep-56, Work-60, that’s 52 left, over 7 hours per day!
  • Part one — Your 168 hours: Maintain a weekly time log and a “list of 100 dreams”.
  • Part two — At work: Match it with your competency and interest.
  • Part three — At home: Reduce television time (or loose 20–30 hours!) and outsource household chores.
  • The book has ample statistics, exciting questions, and retellings.
  • 168 hours — consider a blank slate, how would you fill it?
  • Fill bits of time with bits of joy.
  • My168Hours.com

5 seconds rule

https://melrobbins.com/five-elements-5-second-rule/

  • You are one decision away from a completely different life
  • You can’t control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act.
  • I was the problem and in five seconds, I could push myself and become the solution.
  • If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it.